Episode #036

Social-Life Engineering: Making Friends As An Adult With Minimal Effort

It's often remarked that the older you get, the harder it can be to keep friends and make new ones.

Despite loneliness being an increasingly common and potentially deadly condition (affecting 47% of adults in the US), there exists a stigma associated with being an adult with few friends who wants to make more.

The quality of our social connections is a deep human need, not just psychologically but physiologically. 

Even in prison amongst criminals, murderers, thieves and rapists - solitary confinement is a punishment. Humans, whilst being one of the most adaptable and intelligent species on the planet, cannot survive (let alone thrive) alone.

If you want to live a good life, cultivating positive social connections is essential. 

But how, as an adult, can you expand your social circle in a free and easy way? How can you meet new people in a way that feels natural and intuitive? 

In this latest episode of the ikario podcast, myself and Shane discuss a concept we like to call "social-life engineering" which we are delighted to share with you.

In this episode...

Some of the points covered in today's conversation:

  • 00:00 - Intro
  • 01:26 - Masculinity vs vulnerability
  • 16:27 - Shane's apology to the MGTOW community
  • 29:04 - What is social-life engineering (and why it works)
  • 41:54 - When Ollie unknowingly implemented social-life engineering
  • 47:00 - Practical tips and takeaways (especially if you're shy)
  • 55:35 - A truly ridiculous question

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Over to You

We hope you found this episode useful! What brought you the most value? Do you have questions or feedback? Let us know by leaving a comment below!

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Oliver Cowlishaw

About the author

Ollie is an avid pizza connoisseur, accomplished drinker of coffee and lover of soul music. Heavily influenced by Zen & eastern mysticism, his curiosity regarding the human experience is insatiable. Despite having a strong vocabulary, he swears a lot and uses slang phrases ("ollie-isms") that almost nobody understands, not even himself.

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