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Our thoughts can be our biggest enemies. Discover how to finally turn off those negative, critical voices that play in your head on repeat.

If you could take action toward your dream life, with 0% downside risk, would you? Learn how to get out of your own way, so taking action becomes easy.

When you learn to accept yourself and eliminate neurotic thoughts, life is yours to enjoy. That's true peace!

If you're like most people you've experienced your fair share of suffering from your own mind. I'm sure you know what I'm talking about, that little gremlin in the back of your head... the inner critic.

It's always waiting to come out and attack. Never missing an opportunity to point out what's wrong with you. That you aren't successful enough, attractive enough. It says you're not good enough. It tells you you're messing up every chance it can get.

This creates a particularly frustrating type of suffering, because you can't escape your own thoughts. How can you enjoy life when you have this constant criticism in the back of your head? The worst part is it not only drives you crazy... but it affects your performance.

Maybe you know what you want to be doing, but always put off taking the first step? In a study on procrastination, they found the root cause was fear. They also found those who forgave themselves procrastinated less.

Interesting, right? But fear of what, exactly?

You might think it's a fear of failure. But actually - it's more like a fear of ourselves. What we really fear is the pain that comes with our own criticism. The anxiety and self-loathing that follow when our minds tell us once again...

"What's wrong with you? You shouldn't have even tried in the first place"

As much as we have problems in life - most of our suffering is at our own hand. Or better yet - the hand of the inner critic. 

I'm sure you've been there before. You make a mistake at work. Or put off going to the gym. Or look at your life and think "Is this all there is for me?". Your mind starts on a downwards spiral, telling you how terrible you are, how you always screw things up, how you're not far enough in life.

It's not you that's the problem... it's your thinking. You battle with yourself - with your own mind. And no matter how hard you fight, it just leads to more anxiety, more negative self-talk, and more shame. 

Trust me, I've been there. But I also know - it's possible to change.

You wake up in the morning... ah yes. Another day I get to be me! You jump out of bed, get dressed, and think about the day ahead. 

You know there will be challenges - but it doesn't matter. It won't change the way you see yourself. You look forward the day. You're proud to be you. Regardless of what happens, you know you'll be kind and loving toward yourself. 

You're working towards your dreams... You find yourself naturally taking massive action towards your goals. You've started that new business - and it's making progress.

The nervousness is still there (more like excitement). The difference is, there's not this paralyzing anxiety about what happens if I fail? No matter what you know you'll still be there for yourself. So you move forward...

Peace of mind seems impossible in today's day and age... However if you use the right tools and tactics, you can end the battle in your own mind.

We've said that if you can be kinder to yourself, you'll take action more easily, and perform better. But being nicer to yourself is about more than just success... it's about enjoying life.

Imagine for a second that you achieve all the success you want... but you still have a war going on in your mind. How would you feel?

Until you get your mind on your side - it's impossible to enjoy life. Every moment will be tormented by anxiety and self-criticism. 

You can put an end to this. Imagine knowing that no matter what happens - you're 100% at ease with yourself, and your life? That's a level of peace you can only give to yourself. 

The first step to getting there, is to look at the cause of these negative inner voices. 

Most of us are at war with our negative sides. If you think about why, it kind of makes sense. We don't like them. These emotions are not pleasant, so we try to make them go away.

This has created a movement towards "toxic positivity". The notion that you must feel good at all times. There's something wrong with you if you feel anxious, or ashamed, or depressed at times. 

Little do these people know, that this pattern is the cause of their problems. What you resist, persists. And if you try and "do affirmations" or "visualize yourself happy" to escape negativity - you're still resisting your emotions. 

You're betraying yourself. Every time you push against negative emotion, you're further rejecting an aspect of you. 

If you want to find true peace - you must do the opposite. You must learn to listen to what your emotions are trying to tell you. In your shadow, in the areas you least want to look, is where you will find peace. 

So you've done all the "self-improvement stuff", right?

But your mind's still in turmoil... so what do you do now? Instead of trying to "get rid of" the negative thoughts and feelings, you start to get curious about them...

Our feelings are the truest representation of what's going on inside us. Instead of trying to change them, you start to listen to them. Almost every time, they represent a part of you that's been "shut out". Something you don't want to look at.

Every time we curse the inner critic, or resist our anxiety, we make it worse. Here's a better approach:

Seek first to understand the truth of what's happening in your mind. Do this with empathy and curiosity. This in and of itself will start to end the war.

If you treat these "negative messages" like valuable resources to find out about yourself - you'll stop resisting them, and they will stop fighting so hard to be heard. 

True inner-peace, starts with self-acceptance. If you can see and accept the negative voices as part of you (with good intentions), you will start to be at peace. Those inner voices will start to become your best friend.

Rather than fighting them, you'll realize they've been trying to help you this whole time. Living a life of purpose and peace is possible for you - but it starts with acknowledging the truth. Are you ready?

Training yourself to become more aware of your thoughts and emotions can be difficult. It's even more challenging to change those patterns.

That's why we created this 21 day program. And, the best method we've found to do this? Writing.

Taking up a deliberate writing practice can be transformational. It'll create organization in your mind. It'll help you work through difficulties in your daily life. And most importantly it'll help you discover the cause of your inner turmoil and achieve peace of mind. 

Here are some of the introspective writing exercises we use in the program:

These exercises are focused on discovering the cause of your inner turmoil, and understanding it. We focus on self-acceptance, self-forgiveness, and practice "inspecting" our minds. This process is meant to release resistance, which in turn will help to dissolve negative thinking patterns. 

The weeks will have 3 different themes. The goal is to use writing to identify the truth about what's causing your mental and emotional suffering. Each week will include groups of exercises used to identify, understand, and eliminate these thought patterns.

You're not alone - our community's got your back. Not only will you receive access to our 21 day program - but our online community as well. There, you'll share your experiences (as much as you want to) with other members of the program. You'll receive guidance and support from our coaches and other ikario members.

The first step to changing our thought patterns is to gain awareness of them. We do this by getting it all out on paper! Several of the first exercises are related to "thought dumping". A process where you write several pages about what is going on in your head.

When you do this, you'll find the anxiousness already begin to dissipate. Just the act of identifying and "freezing" your thoughts on paper, will stop them running a loop in your head all day. 

We also get clear in the first week on exactly what the problems are you're facing. Anxiety? Overwhelm? Shame? Self-loathing?

We define a goal , and create a vision for what your life would be like without these inner voices. 

Now we start to dig a bit deeper. To resolve inner conflict, we need to get to the source of it. This is where self acceptance work comes in. We start to observe the inner critic objectively, we see why it criticizes us, and what we don't accept about ourselves.

We utilize many processes to help us ease off this part of our minds, here are a few of them:

You'll discover things about yourself that you didn't know. By the end of this week, you'll become more aware of the cause of your inner turmoil.

Toxic positivity is not ideal. However, we need to be able to utilize both positive, and negative emotions. Our negative emotions are the gateway to our blocks, to our shadow self, and to freedom from suffering. 

Our positive side helps us to be excited and motivated to create meaningful things in our lives. Without the positive, we'd simply be in bed complaining all day.

In the third week of the program, we show you how to use gratitude writing, as well as positive focus to get you moving towards an exciting future. This is how you destroy procrastination, and start pursuing your big goals in life.